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Kindness Quote

The other day I wrote a post regarding the way our perceptions can lead to assumptions which may or may not be correct.  Quite often our assumptions are based on our own biases and life experiences.

After writing the post, I started thinking about how often we allow the actions and words of others to affect our moods, our feelings, and generally, our experiences.  If someone makes a negative, inaccurate assumption about us, logically we can tell ourselves, oh, that’s just them; they don’t know what they are talking about.

But if we allow it to somehow become personal, thinking that something about us isn’t quite right, we really do ourselves a disservice in carrying a burden that truly doesn’t belong to us.

Several months ago I was in a store in downtown Chicago.  I hadn’t been in this particular store before, so I wasn’t quite sure where this, that, and oh, the other thing was located!  I noticed a young clerk standing in an open area, saying hello to customers who walked past him.  The most striking thing that caught my attention were the number of people who simply ignored him.  I have to tell you, this bothered me terribly.  He was wearing a uniform, he smiled and ever so politely would say, “Good morning, sir, how you are today?” “Hello miss, welcome; is there anything I can help you with?”

Surely these people must be in the twilight zone not to acknowledge this dear soul.  Now, to be fair, some people did manage to grunt what could be taken for a , “morning”, and a few did say, “Good morning”.  But many did not.

I couldn’t find the item I was looking for, so I approached this lovely person and with a huge smile he said, “Good morning, ma’am; can I help you find something?” I wished him a good morning as well, and asked him if he could please help me find the item I was looking for.  He took me to the exact location of the item, instead of simply stating, “Aisle 5”.

After thanking him for his assistance, I shared with him my earlier observations of the ‘passersby’ who did not acknowledge his presence.  I had no idea what he was about to say, but I have to admit his response was a surprise.

“Oh yeah, I’m used to it,” was the reply.  “But I don’t let it bother me.”  I nodded my head and waited to hear more.  He commented, “I figure you never know where someone is coming from.  What if they had a really bad day?  Maybe they aren’t feeling well, or they’ve got a lot of problems; they could have problems I don’t have.”  I could feel tears welling up in my eyes over the profoundness coming from this young man.

Happiness

He went on to say he always starts the day with a smile and ends it the same way.  He told me it wouldn’t be right for his day to be spoiled by something that had nothing to do with him.  It didn’t make sense to him.  It didn’t make sense to me, either, but I’ve sure let it happen a lot.

I shook his hand, and told him that he had done a lot more for me than help me find my item.  I wished him a wonderful day, paid for my purchase, and headed for the train.  Encountering someone with as much awareness as this young man possesses seems to be a rare occurrence.  I’m a lot older than he is, and I’m still working on it.

One of my favorite quotes of all-time is by Ralph Waldo Emerson and it’s one I diligently try to live by:Ralph Waldo Emerson Quote

What about you, do you let your ‘old nonsense’ go and start the day with a fresh perspective? Inquiring minds want to know (I would love to know)!

 

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65 thoughts on “Profoundness In Aisle 5

  1. sonworshiper says:

    I love the awareness that so much of our lives depends on what we do control. There are plenty of people who always have an excuse or a scapegoat. Life is full of willing victims of the consequences of their own bad decisions, and they’re all too happy to tell you why everything is going wrong and everyone’s out to get them, and it’s just not fair.
    One of the best lessons I’ve gained from military service is an understanding that I am more in control than I might like to admit. I can affect change. Responsibility is on my shoulder. I am not at the mercy of most circumstances, nor am I compelled to respond in any particular way.
    (Certainly there are exceptions. I’m not trying to blame the victim of a horrible crime, like some sort of “she dressed that way so she deserved it” crap.)
    That understanding – or lack thereof – makes a big difference. The people who get it are a pleasure to work with. The people who refuse to accept any responsibility… ugh.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you so much for your excellent comments! It is wonderful that you have the awareness of having more control than you might like to admit. When we come to that realization, the excuses no longer serve a purpose, do they? I, like you have met many people who won’t accept any responsibility. It is something I find personally difficult to wrap my head around. It is most definitely a, “ugh”! *grin* Cher xo

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  2. cadeauca says:

    That young man has an A+ attitude and I’ve always loved that Emerson quote. I’m striving to get to a place where my happiness comes from within and external factors like job titles and relationships don’t matter so much. One day!

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      He sure does, doesn’t he? Ah, you love that quote too! I’m with you! I feel the same way! I am working hard on the internal. You said it perfectly! Thank you, my dear! Cher xo

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  3. John says:

    Great post, thanks for sharing the great awareness of this young fella. this reminds me of my biological mother, I was adopted. While under construction in her belly, she was still using. This has caused all of my sisters, brothers and half sisters much difficulty as adults. I explained this to my mother in law a few days ago. She asked if I had asked God to help me forgive her which I never did. It’s dealt with. Now it’s done. Weight gone.

    Didn’t mean to preach. 🙂

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank YOU so much, John. I am extremely grateful you shared this with us. No preaching seen my dear; simply explaining what happened. And as you said, weight gone. Big blessings! Cher xo

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  4. I am a work in progress that practices each and every day with a smile and a kind word 🙂 Thanks for the reminder – Happy Day – Enjoy!

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      You and me both my dear!! Thank YOU! And Happy Day to you too! Cher xo

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  5. I think sometimes we’re just meant to cross paths with certain people. Everyone has something to teach, and everyone has something to learn. Thank you for sharing your beautiful interaction with this thoughtful young man. 🙂

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you so much for your comments; I completely agree my dear! We most definitely all have something to teach each other and to learn. I always feel so blessed to have this opportunities. Take your blog for example. I know I’ve mentioned to you before that I love seeing your photos and reading your words. It makes me hear the crickets and smell the fresh air; this teaches me to slow down sometimes!! So thank YOU! Cher xo

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      1. Thank you, Cher. That’s such a nice thing to say! I’m so happy that you find something positive in my posts. On that note, I appreciate the culture and beauty of your city life that you share. 🙂

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      2. seaangel4444 says:

        I always do; they are literally like a breath of fresh air! Ah, bless; thank you for that. I hope the little bits of the city show what an amazing place this is. When I need the calm and serenity of the country, I hop on over to your blog! Cher xo

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      3. Thanks! I’ve really enjoyed seeing Chicago through your eyes; it’s definitely a beautiful and interesting city! And, when I need something more interesting than mountains, fields, and farm animals to look at, I love to visit your blog! 😊

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      4. seaangel4444 says:

        Ah, thank you so much! Truly, I cannot think of anything more interesting or beautiful than country scenery, though! It’s magical! Cher xo

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  6. Don says:

    That kind of awareness can only but inspire one. People like that are real gifts to us.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      They really are gifts, aren’t they, Don? I was humbled to the core meeting this dear young man. Cher xo

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  7. Cher, this is a beautiful post. I love it. So positive! Emerson’s quote is so simple, yet so profound. Profoundness is all around us; we just have to be open to it. I hope you don’t mind if I reblog this post. Thanks.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Well thank you soooooooooo much, dear Carol! I have always loved Emerson’s quotes and this one in particular is my favorite. Oh, it is my absolute honor that you reblogged this post! How grateful am I? Thank you my dear! Cher xo

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  8. Reblogged this on Sunshinebright and commented:
    I am happy to reblog Cher’s lovely post regarding profoundness. Openness and self-awareness come into play here, also. Please give your experiences with kindness and how others’ or your own, have “made your day.”

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  9. You met a young man, who early learned, what life is all about Cher 😀 A beautiful soul.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      I couldn’t agree more, Irene! To ‘get it’ at such a young age is wonderful. Truly it was a privilege to speak with him. Thank you, Irene! Cher xo

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  10. mewhoami says:

    What a great lesson to learn. I too try to consider that others may just be having a bad day and try not to take it personal. On that same note, I try my best to not take my bad day out others. My bad day shouldn’t be their problem and vice versa.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      I am the same as you, my dear! It is hard not to take it personally, and it is also good to be mindful for us not to take our bad days out on others. Always learning, always evolving, aren’t we? Thank you! Cher xo

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  11. lemmerson60 says:

    Reblogged this on Quiche in Paris (Canada) !! and commented:
    Absolutely; it’s like going to bed “mad” as they say. You can’t open yesterdays mail again can you. Clean out those cobwebs. I always liked the name Emmerson s:P

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      *LOL* True my dear! Thank you for the reblog! And yes, I have always liked that name too!! Cher xo

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  12. First of all this is wonderful post to have read this morning, Cher. It’s taught me a lot, especially to be thankful for what I have and not to make such small issues become mountains. My Grandmother always said to me “treat others how you would want them to treat you”. Seems this young man does exactly that. I only wish there were more people like him in our world.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Ah, bless you dear Hugh! Your Grandmother was spot on; perfect words of advice! Yes, he certainly does, Hugh. And to think this is his day in and day out experience of having a lot of people walk past him with nary a word. I simply experienced this in front of him for a few minutes. He must truly be an old soul. Thank you for your words, Hugh!! Big hugs, Cher xo

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  13. 2e0mca says:

    I think your young man is a victim of the ‘service the customer’ management approach. If I go into a particular store in London (no names – no pack drill – actually… Blacks… though they’re not the only offender) I get approached by store staff within 30 seconds of walking through the door 😦 I’ve had three different store staff approach me one after the other! It’s off-putting at a time when all I want to do is see if they may have something that I want. Shoppers need to have a bit of time to assess what a shop has to offer and too often we find ourselves being brow-beaten by staff who seem to be working on the assumption that we’ve only entered the store to steal 😦 Just what is wrong with standing there looking attentive and waiting for the customer to approach you when they are ready with a meaningful question about your products? Rant over – I still have a lot of sympathy for the poor lad in your story though.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Have you ever shopped in the US? *LOL* I don’t think you’d find the same experience here too often. The store I was in was a pharmacy (chemist), and this young man’s greetings I truly believe are his own way of connecting with the customers. However, having said that, I have been in stores that you have described and they are dreadful! There is a particular store I know of where the clerks wear headsets and they let others know you are headed their way! If it wasn’t such a great selection I wouldn’t shop there for that reason alone. But I feel the same way you do; I like to look around, browse, and if I have questions, I’ll come and find you! *grin* Yes, the dear young man; he’s a gem, to be sure! Cher xo

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  14. Reblogged this on Suzie Speaks and commented:
    I absolutely loved this wonderful post from Cher. Definitely worth a read and pretty much sums up the genuine and kind-hearted person she is… Hop on over and say hi – it will be definitely worth your time!

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  15. bklynboy59 says:

    excellent experience and yes it is not uncommon especially in big cities that people are less likely to even say good morning than in suburban areas.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you so much! Oh yes, you know exactly what I mean! Coming from a small place in Canada to a large American city really brings that to the forefront. I am so glad this dear young man creates his own pleasant work experience despite the actions (or lack thereof) of others! Cher xo

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  16. SD Gates says:

    I find that I cannot carry my troubles with me, especially in my line of work. I work with children, and they have a tendency to pick up on troubled thoughts and respond by being fretful themselves (which makes my job much more difficult). So the troubles stay at home. I have a tendency to smile at strangers, but I find more and more they do not reciprocate, mostly because they have their heads down, looking at their telephones and letting the world pass them by.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you so much for your comments. I completely understand what you are saying and yes, it must make your job extremely difficult. Bless you for working with children and creating a more worry-less environment for them. I know what you mean by smiling at strangers and they don’t reciprocate. Someone once told me (and believe me, I find it hard to do) that the sheer act of kindness, no matter who it is or is not received, immediately comes back to us. No, not necessarily in the actions of others towards us, but by merely extending our kindness somehow the energy is like a boomerang back to us (whether we can open ourselves to feel it, especially when we don’t ‘see’ the reciprocation. I hope this makes sense! I don’t think I worded it nearly as well as the person who shared this with me put it! Cher xo

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      1. SD Gates says:

        Oh my gosh, we think exactly alike. In fact I wrote a whole book about that. The afterlife is not one or two places but a tunnel with off-shoots. Each person is born with the same level of energy, and depending how one treats others and behaves during their life will determine what kind of energy levels they have when they die, and that energy level dictates to which tunnel they go when they die. Also filled with auras and karma, lots of talk about how karma comes back to bite one in the butt, in fact the main character thinks Karma is a person, who is powerful and strong and all-knowing. How funny that you should comment on all of this.

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      2. seaangel4444 says:

        *biggest grin* Somehow I knew you’d understand my comments as I do yours! Absolutely fascinating, isn’t it? I love how you explain the energy. Thank you so much for your words; where can I find your book? It sounds incredible! Cher xo

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      3. SD Gates says:

        I hope you didn’t think I was trying to push my book on you, but what you said is exactly the thoughts behind the “tunnels”. It is on Amazon – From Cornflakes to Eternity. I think you will enjoy it. There is a couple of typos I have to fix in the Kindle version (Manee Trautz was kind enough to let me know), but there is a paperback version as well.

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      4. seaangel4444 says:

        Oh not at all my dear! I am sooo glad you mentioned it and I am most definitely will check it out! Thank you and I sure am thankful for your awesome comments!! Cher xo

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      5. SD Gates says:

        It is my pleasure. I love your blog and all your posts!!!!

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      6. seaangel4444 says:

        Ah, bless! Thank you so much! That is so sweet of you to say and I really appreciate it a lot! Cher xo

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  17. noelleg44 says:

    Very lovey post, and it;s so nice to know there are young people out there with such positive and caring attitudes.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you so kindly for your comments! Yes, I agree; it was an absolutely humbling experience to meet this dear soul. Cher 🙂

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  18. greyzoned/angelsbark says:

    Wow, what a great attitude that young man has. And he must experience great peace of mind. I’m always one to be bothered by rudeness. And that is silly. Because when someone is rude, it can literally ruin my day. What a waste! Thanks for sharing this wisdom with us.
    Michele at Angels Bark

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      He certainly does, doesn’t he? I think we all need to take a page from this young man’s profound book. I am trying so hard not to let a rude person ruin my day, but I do know what you mean, my dear! It is a waste, isn’t it, Michele? Thank you so much for your comments. If by any chance you have a moment to read yesterday’s post, it is another encounter I had with a very profound and wise soul. And by the way, I utterly LOVE your blog! Cher xo

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  19. Nice blog. I also have to remind myself daily to let go of the past and start new again each day. I set daily mantras as a reminder. I’ve gotten offtrack this summer with all my travels. Your blog and quotes are a reminder for me to get back on track with a positive mantra each morning.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you so much for your comments! I can imagine you were so incredibly busy this summer with your travels! It isn’t always easy to let go and start again, but it does pay off if we can, doesn’t it? Ah, thanks for that! I need to be reminded as well! Cher xo

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  20. Jennifer says:

    Love this post. So important to remember that we don’t know what other people are going through. This clerk has the right attitude, I want to hire him!

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      I agree, Jennifer!!! Thank you for your comments! We never know, do we? Cher xo

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  21. Ritu says:

    I try to.make every day a new start 🤗

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      I think that is a fabulous idea!! Well done! Cher xo

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      1. Ritu says:

        🤗🤗🤗

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  22. Traci York says:

    I aspire to letting things go at the end of the day – haven’t quite gotten there yet, though! *grin* Love the graphics in this post!

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      It isn’t an easy thing to do, is it, Traci? But yes, it is certainly something to try! Thank you! Cher xo

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  23. Jumped over from the link you left in a comment under the yadadarcyyada blog party post
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    He sounds like a very wise young man indeed, and a wonderful employee – one who deserves better treatment. His point of view represents my thoughts when I encounter the rare example of behavior I don’t expect in response to mine. Good for him for being able to maintain his positive attitude in response to repeated exposure to what is, actually, unacceptable behavior.
    When I notice person after person walk by without acknowledging a greeting from a fellow human being, I can only wonder what happened to basic manners. If they are ALL having bad days, perhaps it’s due to the way they approach life and treat others.
    We don’t have to let rude behavior ruin our own mood or spoil our day – and it is still rude, regardless of what’s behind it – but I also don’t think we need to attempt to mentally excuse the behavior either.
    If we want to live in a kinder, gentler world, we ALL need to pay attention to examples of behavior that will never contribute to it, lest they become “the new normal.”
    xx,
    mgh
    (Madelyn Griffith-Haynie – ADDandSoMuchMORE dot com)
    ADD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching co-founder
    “It takes a village to transform a world!”

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Hi Madelyn! Thank you so much for stopping by from Donna’s phenomenal blog! I really appreciate your wise words, Madelyn. I agree; I too want to live in a kinder, gentler world. I think people have strayed so far off the path they do exhibit rude, unkind, and uncaring behaviors more often than not. Not everyone, of course. But when we see it time and time again (as was the case with this dear young fellow), it is hard not to feel somewhat disheartened. However, when I spoke with him, I could not help but think perhaps these shiny gems are here to teach us all some lessons in human kindness! Thank you again, Madelyn! Cher xo

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      1. Yes – we must never fail to note the shiny spirits among us. They give us hope.
        xx,
        mgh

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      2. seaangel4444 says:

        They most certainly do, don’t they Madelyn?

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      3. There are days when they are sorely needed – and other days when I’m blessed by a shiny world. Here’s to more of the latter!
        xx,
        mgh

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