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It’s Saturday morning once again, and as per my usual weekend routine, I have my massive mug of coffee within arm’s reach.  This past week was a mixture of calm, upheaval, stress, quiet, humor, bewilderment, and compassion.

I have posted numerous photos this past week of some gorgeous sunrises that I have been fortunate enough to capture in the morning’s early light!  Today, however, the sky is grey, Lake Michigan has been virtually zapped of all its color, leaving a myriad of grey tones in its wake.  Opposites indeed.  This lead my thoughts to this past week of ‘extremes’.   Likened to the differences between the inspiring, watercolor clouds I bore witness to this past week, compared with today’s grey hues from sky to water, I realize that my experiences last week were also, at times, hovering on the spectrum at each end.

When I was dealing with the downright unpleasant, ‘stuff’, I not for a minute did I feel I could do anything about it.  That was, however, until a conversation with a very wise person made me realize that we absolutely must be our own best friend.  I have heard this before; my dear mother has repeated this to me on many occasions.

But it wasn’t until this past week that it finally started to sink in.  Sometimes in dealing with situations that are so extremely unpleasant we tend to forget the support we have literally inside of us.  Do you remember in, “The Wizard of Oz” when Dorothy was told she had the power all along to go home but she hadn’t realized it?  I think that’s a great analogy of coming to the realization that we have our own best friend within us.  And yes, they have been there all along, through thick and thin, simply waiting for us to recognize this wonderful support that is staring at us in the proverbial mirror!

We are so fixated on the outward; and yes, that is perfectly okay, except when we negate the person who has the built-in capacity to help us; that, of course, is YOU!

Helping others deal with tough situations is honorable, but when it isn’t reciprocated inward then the balance is gone.  Being your own best friend brings a sense of calm, peace, and appreciation for whatever circumstance you find yourself in.  Being your own best friend means you are kind to yourself, thoughtful, gentle, supportive, reassuring, but most of all, loving.  Being your own best friend is one of the most important aspects of our human experience, in my opinion.  I’ve really been missing out on this one!  Being your own best friend also allows you to become an even better friend to others.  When you experience the supportive nature for yourself, it allows you to relate that feeling outward to others.

I wonder what it would be like if people actually took the time to be kinder to themselves.  Do you think they would be happier people?  I certainly think they would.  Stepping back to the Wizard of Oz analogy, the ability has always been there; it just has to be believed.

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23 thoughts on “Saturday Morning Serenity: Becoming Your Own Best Friend

  1. Erika Kind says:

    Thank you for this, Cher! That is such an important reminder. Too often we forget about ourselves, our wonder or to care about ourselves. Only if we are fine with ourselves we can face life in a constructive way!

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you, Erika! Yes, I agree completely! We have to be our own best friends so we can help others (and ourselves)! And by being positive about who we are does make life a lot better all around! Cher xo

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      1. Erika Kind says:

        You said it all, Cher ☺💖

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      2. seaangel4444 says:

        Ah, bless! Thank you, Erika!! Cher xo

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      3. Erika Kind says:

        You are very welcome 💖

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  2. How massive is your coffee mug?

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Oh, Don! *LOL* *LOL* Cher xo

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  3. Aren’t you the philosopher, Cher? Good subject, good post!!

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you, dear Carol!! Cher xo

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  4. Thank you for writing this xx

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Why thank you so much, Chrissie! You just made my entire week! Cher xo

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  5. Reblogged this on Suzie Speaks and commented:
    I loved this post from Cher last weekend! Something to think about!

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  6. Rowena says:

    Reblogged this on beyondtheflow and commented:
    What fabulous advice…the importance of becoming your own best friend. I have been conscious for some time about our ability to shoot ourselves in the foot and to be our own worst enemy and this works in well with that. I intend to share this with my kids.
    xx Rowena

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Why thank you, Mo! Cher xo

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  7. “Being your own best friend brings a sense of calm, peace, and appreciation for whatever circumstance you find yourself in. Being your own best friend means you are kind to yourself, thoughtful, gentle, supportive, reassuring, but most of all, loving.”

    Thank you for this. I can turn into my inward (quiet) self for support and deep thinking when the outside world is just too much to handle. This is what I have recently learned as I work to embrace my introversion.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Why thank you so much for your wonderful words! I too am an introvert. This is another reason to be cognizant of being your own best friend. With introverts such as ourselves, the quiet mind is our haven. I am so glad to hear you are working on embracing your own introversion. Many see me as an extrovert; however, I am not. The inner world is where I gather my calm and peace. Cher xo

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      1. I grew up an extrovert as I shared in a recent post. I went through a questioning phase and a lot of inner battles before knowing what I really need — to be my own self and best friend and embrace my introversion as my strengths. 🙂 Glad to meet another fellow in blog land. 🙂

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      2. seaangel4444 says:

        Likewise, my dear! I think that is wonderful that you are embracing your introversion as strengths! I shall join you in that!! Thank you! Cher xo

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  8. Meanderer says:

    Yes – even though difficult at times – it is important to be kind and to show compassion to ourselves. I found Kristin Neff’s books really interesting and useful in this matter.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      I agree; we really need to be mindful of this, don’t we? I don’t know of Kristin Neff. I shall go and look her up right now! Thank you, my dear! Cher xo

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  9. gillswriting says:

    Ouch!!! I think you posted this just for me. Thanks for the pinch! xxx

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      *biggest grin* Why you are most welcome and I am truly glad I could help in a small way!! Cher xo

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