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It’s Saturday, the weather is very warm for this time of year, and I’m reflecting on my birthday events from yesterday.  Getting older is such an interesting ‘concept’, don’t you think?  When you are a child, time goes sooooo slow when waiting for the fun stuff to arrive; you know, your birthday, holidays, the end of school (and then the long summer!).

Now, despite the fact the days are just as long as they were ‘back then’, it seems that someone has sped the clock up to a whirlwind motion.  Funny this idea of ‘time’.  It’s all in our perception.  We humans do such a great job thinking about the past, waiting for the future, but often don’t seem to get the whole ‘now’ idea.

Where is your mind at any given time?  Is it aware of what you are doing at the ‘moment’, or is it back in 5th Grade (Canadians say, “Grade 5”) reworking a social studies project.  Is your mind already worrying about next week’s work meeting and how it better go well or else?  To me, it’s as if we are living the experiences twice.  And more often than not we are focusing on the negative, worried memories (or future what ifs) than being in reality; which is right now.

So I’m thinking, hey, if at this very moment I’m sitting on the couch, coffee cup not but a mere stretch of the arm away, why is my mind revisiting a crappy occurrence at work last week?  *Cher checks her surroundings* Last time I checked (which was 3 seconds ago) I’m sitting here writing this post, not at my desk worried about an overlooked letter to send out.

It takes a concerted effort to stay focused in the present.  But it does bring a sense of calm and control, I think.  Now, that’s not to say if your hair is on fire and you are focused on it that it will bring calmness; no, it just means that in a general sense it helps us enjoy what’s going on, as opposed to what went on and what might happen.  I’m not sure why our tendency is to ruminate on past negativity, and worry about future stuff if we are nice and cozy in the present.  You know, the more I am writing about this, the more inquisitive I am getting.  Why do we do this to ourselves?

Perhaps we need to simply practice the art of the present moment.  Practicing usually makes us better at that which we want to improve.  I want to improve aligning with the, ‘here and now’, not the ‘then and future then’.

See what birthdays conjure up?  My philosophizing, slightly tired, ‘older’ self will now present to you what I think will really keep me in the now:

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I know it’s a little hard to read from this angle, but it says, “Happy Birthday, to Cher-Bear!!!”.

And now, I’m in the now.

🙂

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24 thoughts on “Saturday Morning Serenity: Reflecting

  1. Lisa A. says:

    Cool cake! Happy birthday (even though it was yesterday). You’re right, it seems like we always focus on the past or future. I’m not really sure why.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you, Lisa! I’m not sure either!! *LOL* Cher xo

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  2. Happy belated birthday. That cake is adorable!

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Why thank you, my dear! Isn’t it just? And because I’m an icing lover, there is a ton of it on this cake! *grin* Cher xo

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  3. Beautiful morning, and Wonderful Cake.. Happy Birthday Cher.. ❤ Enjoy xxx

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Why thank you so much, dear Sue! Cher xo

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  4. John says:

    Nice cake! Time goes too quickly these days!

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  5. Beautiful sunrise Cher and wow for a birthday cake 🙂
    Today you are one day older than yesterday….. like each day…
    It is important to be more mindful, if we wish to live more in the moment. It does also prevent stress and bad mood.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you, Irene! Oh yes, I agree. It really does prevent stress and bad mood indeed! I have to keep practicing it every day! Cher xo

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  6. 2e0mca says:

    Hope you had a great 21st Cher 🙂

    It may cheer you to know that today is very slightly longer than yesterday and yesterday was slightly longer than the day before… The world’s rotation is gradually slowing down. If you had been around with the Dinosaurs you would have had a 16 hour day! Imagine trying to get everything done 😉

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      *LOL* *LOL* Why thank you so much, my dear! I hadn’t thought about it that way, but I certainly will now!! Cher xo

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  7. Lucy Camp says:

    Happy birthday for yesterday!. Living in the moment is quite an art – isn’t that weird! My living in the moment time is a walk every day, paying attention to my surroundings,;the sound my feet make on the footpath, the birds, smells. It’s wonderful and becomes easier to spend more of your day in the moment 🙂

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you so much, Lucy! Your living in the moment is quite an art, but it sounds as if you have mastered it beautifully! Well done, and I will take a page from your ‘life playbook’ and keep trying it too! Thank you! Cher xo

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  8. Great post, great cake. I’m trying to live in the now and I fail a lot of the time… but less than I used to.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you, Hilary! It is hard to do, isn’t it? I struggle with it, but keep on trying! Cher xo

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  9. Another year older. Lucky you, Cher. Hope your special day was just the way you wanted it to be! 🙂

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you, dear Carol! I had a great day! Cher xo

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  10. Happy birthday 🎉🎈🎁 I think it’s from our caveman days, to remember past mistakes so that we learn from them and don’t get attacked by a mammoth again but our minds go a little overboard lol

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Why thank you so much, Chrissie! Why, that makes total sense, doesn’t it? Oh yes, our minds do go a little overboard, don’t they? *grin* Cher xo

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      1. It would be so good if they came with a mute button sometimes lol

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      2. seaangel4444 says:

        How true my dear; how true!! xo

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