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A CANADIAN EXPAT'S EXPERIENCES AND OBSERVATIONS LIVING IN THE WINDY CITY!

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I have written a lot of posts about stressful weeks and how I need reflection on the weekends to provide me with some calming energy.  What I am about to share with you is not only difficult to write about, but fraught with emotions I cannot even begin to explain.  I’ll try and give it my best.

This past week was once again met with a lot of stressful and draining moments.  However, nothing at all compared with one particular event.  As I arrived into work one day I could see on the faces of my colleagues that something was seriously wrong.  I pulled one person aside and asked if something had happened.  A co-worker’s sibling had died.  This news was extremely upsetting; however, as the story unfolded, its sadness morphed into an almost surreal situation.  It wasn’t just one co-worker who was affected by this person’s passing; there were five co-workers of mine who were related to this individual.  My co-workers were this person’s father, mother, brothers, and daughter.  And, to my absolutely horror, the person was murdered, along with their spouse.

I stood in place for what seemed an eternity.  I couldn’t move.  I didn’t know what to say, how to act, or what to do.  So I just stood there, in complete and utter disbelief.  It was almost as if pages from a novel had literally become reality right in front of me.  I struggled to think of anything I could say to bring any comfort to my co-workers.

The next day, much to my total and utter shock, one of the five family co-workers was at work!  I was stunned, a bit thrown off, and confused as to why on earth they would choose to be here the day after such a horrific situation.  I hugged my co-worker, provided my sincere and heart-felt condolences, and then said nothing else.

But as I saw my co-worker a few times during the day, everything started to become clear.  This dear co-worker was looking for something, anything that had not completely and utterly shattered their world.  They were looking for a place that had not changed, that had not suddenly become a nightmare and hell on earth.  They were looking for normalcy and stability to realize that not everything in their world had become turned upside down and inside out.  That place was our work environment.  I saw a few co-workers talking to this dear soul about anything BUT the tragedy that had fallen at their feet.  I saw my co-workers being silly and funny and simply trying to show our colleague that they are supported, appreciated, and that good still remains in the world (and specifically, in their world).  I decided to join in and tease my coworker about something which brought some grins and a few chuckles.

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Will any of this bring their loved one back? No, sadly, it will not.  But what it might do, even in the smallest and simplest way, is bring some serenity, peace and comfort to the lives of those affected by the worst possible circumstances they will no doubt ever face in their lives.  It is a reminder to everyone that we need to support one another, to treat others with respect and kindness, and at the very least, show the most basic of human decency to our fellow man/woman.  Earth angels are among us.  I saw them the other day; they were helping a fellow soul feel they are not alone; this, to me, is a sign that goodness can always be found, no matter the extreme circumstances.

I hope you take the time to appreciate that which you know about someone, but equally, that which you do not know about someone.  Bringing comfort and compassion will travel farther than you can imagine.

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18 thoughts on “Sunday Serenity: In The Presence of Angels

  1. Very sad news Cher, but good to hear about the love, as were supported.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Yes, I agree, Irene. It has been an incredibly sad and horrific set of circumstances. The kindness and support for the family is no doubt appreciated. Cher xo

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  2. John says:

    So sad to read this Cher. I will pray for the family. 😔

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you, John; I know your prayers will be felt by the wonderful family. Cher xo

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  3. Erika Kind says:

    First of all, they are blessed to have you. Someone who looks behind and is so compassionate and loving. Yes, you are absolutely right about the wish of normality. I remember when my father (and boss) died unexpectedly from one moment to another I was in such a shock. There was not only my shocked mom and the company, there was also the pressure as the oldest to bring stability in everything, most of all my mom. There was so much to organize around the company and the private life. It was crazy. And this all next to the grief. One day I sat there and wished to simply have my normal life back! I hope that. The situation of your co-workers is of course very tragic and the shock huge. We cannot even imagine what they are going through. Time truly helps to smoothen the waves. The grief will never really go away but at one point it feels different and is not that present and life consuming anymore. I send them loads of love 💖

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Oh dear Erika, your comments have moved me to tears. I am so sorry that this happened to you. Thank you so much for sharing your words and kind and caring thoughts. I share them back to you. Cher xo ❤ ❤

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      1. Erika Kind says:

        Your post was deeply moving with all in it. Because beyond the tragedy it showed me again that there is also always this spark of light – people who care, who are thoughtful and compassionate, and who are not afraid to connect with the concerned people, like you.
        Thank you also for your kind words. It was a shock but that is life. It was my father’s way and I was able to accept it immediately. Everything else then was my way. This helped a lot in the grieving and growing process!
        💖💖💖

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      2. seaangel4444 says:

        Your words are very moving to me, dear Erika. Thank you so much for your insight and thoughtful comments. Cher xo

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      3. Erika Kind says:

        Thank you for sharing this with us and spreading some awareness, Cher 💖

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      4. seaangel4444 says:

        You are so thoughtful, Erika; thank YOU, my dear! Cher xo

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  4. This was a well written blog and such an important one. All of us, I think, have been in situations where we have gone through a personal tragedy and in a public setting a kind soul can be a comfort or can make a moment awkward and regrettable. Sometimes a joke told quietly is just the right release for a person to laugh and let a little emotion out and then they can relax. Great blog. Hugs, Barbara

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Oh Barbara, thank you so much for your thoughtful words. I saw the family today; I shared a little joke with one of them just to bring a tiny break to their otherwise extreme circumstances. Thank you, Barbara! Hugs, Cher xo

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      1. Have a wonderful week. Hugs, Barbara

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      2. seaangel4444 says:

        And you as well, Barbara; thank you! Cher xo

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  5. Such a tragedy. It is so hard to lose a work colleague but in those circumstances is hard to imagine. Take care.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you my dear. Cher xo

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  6. That is so sad and shocking. Glad you could be there to help your colleagues through such a dreadful experience.

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