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It’s Saturday morning, and once again I am sitting here with my jumbo-sized coffee cup strategically placed within arm’s reach.  This past week brought with it some interesting moments.  Ah, the word, “interesting”; so many meanings, don’t you think?

I can describe something as interesting, and you might think I am referring to a situation that fascinated me.  Or it might just be that the word took on an entirely different connotation.  In this particular case, it is the latter.

All week I found myself questioning these ‘interesting’ moments trying to figure out the what/why (I knew the who/when/where part of the equation!) of it all.  So here is what I took away from these ‘interesting’ moments.

I might forget what people said (or for that matter, what they didn’t say) to me, but I certainly won’t forget how they made me feel.  When it comes down to it, isn’t that the way we humans are wired?  You might recollect a time when you had an absolute blast at a party.  But the takeaway will more than likely be the feeling of ‘having a great time’, as opposed to details of who said what.

This really had me thinking about how important it is to be cognizant of the incredible power our actions and words can hold.  They possess a lot of weight when it comes to leaving lasting impressions as to how others felt about them.  Think back to a time in your own life when something someone did made you feel great.  That feeling has stayed with you, perhaps for a long, long time.  You might also recall a time when someone’s comments (or lack thereof) still conjure up hurtful feelings or resentment.

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At the crux of it all, our memories are made up of varied components of events, but the most impacting will be how it made you feel.  I guess that is why I think it’s extremely important to be mindful to think before we engage in turning a haphazard comment into an unpleasant memory for someone.  On the other hand, when we say something kind or show a gesture of compassion, the feelings the person will have might be impactful in ways you could never imagine.  They’ll remember it, and no doubt the feeling of appreciation will stay with them forever.  Pretty strong things, our words and actions.

As for me, why, I’m taking away from this past week a lot of wonderful feelings to fill up the ‘ol memory bank.  A few clunkers have crept in there too; however, I’m going to attempt to get rid of those in order to make more room for the marvelous memories!  Shift over, crappy comments; the good feelings are taking over your space!

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28 thoughts on “Saturday Serenity: The Feelings

  1. Leya says:

    You are so right. And we cannot be reminded often enough of how important words are. These days we have been fed with many unpleasant, rude and even illiterate words by mr Trump. This will lead to my having great difficulties to appreciate it – if – he would do something good some day. So this works two ways. Interesting.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Hi Leya, I think that words are so incredibly powerful and we must pay attention to how they impact others for sure! Cher xo

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  2. You are right, Cher. We do always remember, how certain people make or made us feel and this is good to remember, when we either open our mouth or write something to other souls.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Yes, the impact can be significant, can’t it, Irene? The other person might be quite unaware as to how their words translate to our feelings. Cher xo

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  3. Erika Kind says:

    I agree! We should think before we speak. But then again, what someone says, says more about that person than about those they are meant for!

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      It definitely does, doesn’t it, Erika? We must keep that in mind as well! Cher xo

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      1. Erika Kind says:

        I absolutely believe so and your post reminded me of that. Thank you, Cher ☺😘

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      2. seaangel4444 says:

        Ah, bless! Thank YOU, dear Erika! Cher xo

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      3. Erika Kind says:

        😊 Have a great weekend 😘

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      4. seaangel4444 says:

        Thank you! You too! Cher xo

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      5. Erika Kind says:

        Thank you 😊😊

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  4. And what a strong close!

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you, David!! Cher xo

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  5. angelanoelauthor says:

    Great thoughts! Your post reminded me of a favorite quote said by Elizabeth Bennet from “Pride and Prejudice.” “You must learn some of my philosophy. Think only of the past as its remembrance gives you pleasure.” Moments are indeed lasting. Careless comments can have impact, and I agree with you that I should be thoughtful about what I say. But, as you mention in closing, I must also be thoughtful of the slights or disappointments I remember and give weight to. I try and think of Eliza Bennet’s wise philosophy and move on. Thanks for the post!

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Why thank you so much for your insightful words! I also appreciate the quote by Elizabeth Bennet. It makes me stop and think whenever someone tells me how a past comment made them feel appreciated, listened to, etc. In that moment, perhaps I wasn’t aware of my words; thankfully, the receiver recalls the positive feeling attached to that memory. Cher xo

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  6. Quiche says:

    Thank you Cher for sharing. 2017 is still Baby New Year, with the old year 2016’s Resolution still well & alive!! Words are my New Years Resolution. To listen more and talk less. (is that even possible for me??!!) Easier said than done, but if I think before I speak, perhaps it will in the end prove positive for everyone. We all love to talk, about practically anything, sometimes thoughtless banter can hurt others unnecessarily or even on purpose! Listening is almost more important as speaking. One word can hurt & injure ones Ego enough to cause long lasting resentment & hurt. Using words to praise instead of condemning, knowing when to speak & when to be silent. This is a struggle, especially when its a heated argument. Choose your words wisely, being mindful of others and praise instead of condemning, There are enough negative words being used by Mr. Trump, we don’t want to duplicate hate.

    CHEERS!!

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Hi dearie! Thank you so much for your excellent comments! I agree; we must be mindful of our words because truly they can have a profound affect on others!! Cheers to you, my dear! Cher xo

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  7. Louise says:

    Funny thing? I was at a conference on Saturday morning where this very topic came up. It was with a “leadership lense” but the same point – small comments matter. Have you ever seen the Lollipop Moments Ted Talk? If not, it’s a good 6 minutes (and Canadian to boot :): https://youtu.be/uAy6EawKKME. I’m currently figuring out a post about it, so I love that I found your post on the same topic.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Hi Louise! Why thank you so much for your wonderful comments! I hadn’t heard of that particular Ted Talk; however, I will most definitely check it out. And Canadian to boot is the added bonus for me of course! 😉 Thank you for posting the link as well! Cher xo

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      1. Louise says:

        My pleasure. I hope you enjoy it!

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  8. RMW says:

    Great piece and I really relate to the last quote. Obviously we can’t possibly remember everything that happened to us on any given day… but looking back over the decades there are moments, good and bad, that stand out. I find as the years go by, the bad ones fade and the good moments are left in my memory!

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you so much for your comments! Yes, it is interesting how our memories become how we felt as opposed to what was said! Such important things are our words! Cher xo

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  9. I remember this one example: My Mum always had a unique understanding of lots of things and I was trying to explain basic things about life to her (that were relevant at the time) and her just being so naive and head in the clouds about stuff and repeatedly telling me not to be ‘so bloody silly.’ I found this really condescending (especially as she wasn’t speaking freon a place of knowledge) and got quite annoyed with her. The next day when someone else brought up the subject she hadn’t remembered anything I’d said, only that I had ‘gotten in a mood’ with her ‘for some reason’. Sometimes like you say, it’s the way an event made us feel or we made others feel, rather than what was said that is important xx

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Hi Chrissie, thank you so much for sharing your comments. Yes, I really feel that it is really about how someone made us feel as opposed to the words used. This is where we have to be so mindful of our words. Well I’m sending you a big hug with tons of positive energy! Cher xo

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  10. laura kilty says:

    YES! So important to remember. Words have immense power, we can use them to unite and heal or hurt and divide. I am glad you always use yours to provide community- one that I am proud to be part of.x

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you soooo much, Laura! They really do, don’t they? And believe me, I am honored to have you part of the community!! Thank YOU, my dear! Cher xo

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  11. Traci York says:

    Funny – I was having a conversation with our boy (19 years old) about how the word “interesting” can have so many meanings and intentions behind it (both positive and negative). Such baggage for a simple word!

    Completely agree that we should use the power of words for good. Hope you have a week filled with wonderful verbiage!

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Oh were you, Traci? It’s “interesting” (biggest grin) how we can use the same word to mean so many different things AND our tone can be a game-changer as well! Why thank you my dear; and the same to you! Cher xo

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