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Last Saturday I wrote a post entitled, “Saturday Serenity: The Feelings” which talked about how powerful words can be.  I mentioned that we might actually forget the words that are spoken, but we won’t forget how they made us feel.

I am extremely honored to share with you an essay that my mother wrote, which gives a first-hand account of how deeply the impact of words can have on someone; in this case, how they personally affected her.  Without further ado, here is my mom’s essay, “The Power of Words:

The Power of Words

This is a story about the power of words. The power to hurt or to heal.

            Think about how you feel when you hear the word “cancer.” Now the word “hope.” Then think about how others feel when your words reach their ears.

            Three instances stand out in my mind, of words that were spoken when I had breast cancer in 1996. The individuals were all in some way related to health care and it is particularly to health care workers that I plead, think before you speak. Always a good idea, no matter what you do!

            Somewhere in that nightmare time of lumpectomy, chemotherapy and radiation, I visited my doctor. It was time to see how far up the wall I could reach my arm and I remember crying in frustration when my arm wouldn’t do what I wanted it to.

            The receptionist said, “Boy, you were really lucky, weren’t you?” referring to early detection. Her words startled me. I certainly wasn’t thinking I was lucky. How could this have happened to me? What did I do wrong? I didn’t deserve this.

             I clung to her words  when the doctor looked at my breast and said, “Wow, that radiation sure did a number on it, didn’t it?”  I had thought it looked pretty good, in spite of the scars.

            In the midst of all this we were  downsizing and I decided to donate several boxes of books to Hopespring, a local organization which supports people living with cancer.

            When I called, the person on the other end of the line said matter-of-factly,  “Oh, you’re a cancer survivor.”

            Survivor? That certainly wasn’t the label I had given myself.

            Ever since then I have looked at things differently, all because of a few words spoken quite innocently. I forgave my doctor. You have to do a lot of forgiving in this life I’ve found.

            My dear mother always said “Think before you speak”  because I was always putting my foot in it, so I know it’s easier said than done.

             Please watch what you say to anyone you meet, especially  those who are suffering.  What will you accomplish with your words? Will you heal or will you hurt?

            To  paraphrase the Golden Rule, “Say unto others as you would have them say unto you.”

            Think! What words do you want to hear spoken today?

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Thank you, Mom! You are an inspiration to all!  I absolutely love this essay; it demonstrates so perfectly how impacting our words can be; no, wait.  I meant to say, how impacting our words ARE!

I hope you are having a lovely day, and that my words resonate with you the knowledge that I am sending you lots of positive energy!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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23 thoughts on “Saturday Serenity: The Feelings (Part 2)

  1. Victo Dolore says:

    Thank you for sharing this!

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank YOU so much, doc! I was hoping you would see this, as my mom reads all of the comments on my blog. I know how much she will appreciate that you commented. With big hugs and appreciation for all YOU do, Cher xo

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  2. Beautiful post, Cher 🙂
    It is not always possible to think, before we talk, but we can have a positive minding and teach ourselves to always speaking positive, both to others and to ourselves. This help to avoid speaking bad most of the times.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you, Irene! I know my mom will appreciate your words as well! That is a lovely way to describe it, Irene. If we can have a positive minding that will help immensely, I’m sure! Cher xo

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  3. Erika Kind says:

    It is crazy how words which seem encouraging for one be hurting someone else deeply. I think things like this will always happen since they are perceived from the way that person looks at it. It would definitely be a good advice to look through the eyes of the other person first before saying things in such delicate situations!

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you, Erika! I agree; we need to be much more empathetic and think how would we feel if we were in the other person’s situation. If is so incredibly important that we do this. My mom needed reassurance during a very vulnerable time; however, the words that were spoken to her did not bring that to her. I feel people really need to be mindful of their words. There is nothing gained when we are not thinking about the feelings of another. Cher xo

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      1. Erika Kind says:

        That is right. If you want to say something that lifts the other one up or comforts them then you need to take there perspective …. or leave it!

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      2. seaangel4444 says:

        Yes, I think so often just say things without a second thought as to how their words might impact another person. Cher xo

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      3. Erika Kind says:

        I think sometimes people should talk less … sometimes a hug is much more needed and says a lot more!

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      4. seaangel4444 says:

        You know it’s funny that you should say that because I was thinking the exact same thing when I pictured those people saying those words to my mom. Why didn’t they just give her a hug? So here’s a big HUG to you, dear Erika! Cher xo

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      5. Erika Kind says:

        Awh… thank you, Cher and another big HUG back to you! Hopefully I can give it to you in person in August. That would be amazing 💖

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      6. seaangel4444 says:

        Yes, that will be wonderful!!!! I can’t wait! Cher xo

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  4. Aquileana says:

    Dear Cher…. this is a very wise and moving post…. thanks for sharing your thoughts here and your dad´s words…
    So true that “we might actually forget the words that are spoken, but we won’t forget how they made us feel”…
    Words could be a burden… or set us free… Maybe both, depending on the context.
    If we stop to think about these “forces” it might seem odd: words are articulated sounds. Words are subjective and relative: if spoken in a language we don´t understand they will never have an effect on us… Words and actions are certainly different: words are less “real”.
    In brief, we are in charge when it comes to give words meanings,.. Independently and-or correlatively to their real meaning.
    Great share!!!!!!…. sending love & best wishes,

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Why thank you so much, dear Aquileana! I know my mom will read your wonderful comments and she and I both appreciate them!! Yes, it is all about the intention and the understanding of our (and the other person’s) words!! Merci, my dear! Cher xo

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  5. Thanks for sharing your mother’s good advice with us.

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Thank you, Hilary! We both appreciate your words! Cher xo

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  6. laura kilty says:

    Wise words from you both! I feel like less talking, more loving actions is what’s needed- and perhaps where the evolution of language and communication will go. I know there is a lot to be said on the negative side of using emojis and text-speak in relation to education and cognitive development of young people but I like the idea of using symbols more. I think they sometimes give a much clearer and ‘to the point’ meaning, often with less ambiguity. Words have so many different connotations attached depending on the user and listener in a situation, it can be challenging to send and receive messages as they are meant with words. I don’t know if you follow Rajagopal but he was also talking on this subject on his page yesterday and I have been having the conversation in real life too- clearly in the air for us all! Thank you for your, and your mother’s, kind and compassionate take.xo

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      That is so extremely kind of you to say, Laura; thank you! My mom reads everything I write (and all the comments) so I can tell you for sure she will be incredibly grateful for your thoughtful words. Oh yes, I agree completely, Laura. Sometimes I hear people whose first language is not English. They sometimes struggle to explain what they want to convey as there “aren’t the right words in English”. Can you imagine if we were able to utilize symbols to convey much more than what words can ‘say’? It’s fascinating! I will look at Rajagopal’s site; thank you for mentioning it. I really try very hard (as does mom) to be thoughtful with our words. P.S. It’s terrific to have you back in the blogosphere! Cher xo

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  7. lorriebowden says:

    Hi Cher! This is a very powerful post. Thank you so much for sharing it in the light that hopefully will help people to think before they speak! Much love ❤

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Hi Lorrie! Why thank you so much! I will definitely let my mom know of your thoughtful words! Thank you! Cher xo

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  8. thebeasley says:

    This is lovely & is certainly food for thought. It would be great if every human read this & took note x

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    1. seaangel4444 says:

      Ah, thank you my dear! That is very thoughtful of you to say. And yes, I agree completely!! Cher xo

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